Have you heard to the bucket of crabs theory?
I first heard of this a couple weeks ago.
It states that if there are several crabs in a bucket, and one tries to climb out, the others will pull him back down.
Not having access to a team of live crabs to test this on, I had to rely on wikipedia. The “crab mentality” is summed up as:
“If I can’t have it, neither can you.”
If the crabs worked together, they could escape. But instead their selfishness and distrust maintains the status quo.
It’s used as a metaphor to describe human behavior.
Let’s say the bucket is your job, and you want to leave to try something new. Do your friends and co-workers encourage that leap of faith, or do they try and pull you back down to reality?
What’s your gut reaction when one of your peers takes a risk and is genuinely happy and successful? I know it isn’t the right answer, but a lot of the time for me at least, it’s jealousy.
We can be better than the crabs. Smarter. More cooperative. More encouraging.
If you want to climb out of your “bucket,” whatever it may be, don’t let the other crabs pull you down.
And if you’re happy in your bucket but see someone else making a break for it, go ahead and give ’em a boost!
You never know, maybe they’ll turn around and offer a hand up.
Side note. Did I ever tell about the time we had a mini crab feed? I did not appreciate the apparent awesomeness that is crab meat. Way too much work for way too little food, I thought.
What say you?